What’s up with the handkerchiefs that some guys wear?
The “Hanky Code” is a traditional form of signaling to others what your sexual preferences and interests are. Gay men used this code to communicate with each other in the noisy and distracting environment of gay bars during the late 60s, 70s and even the 80s. The hanky code also allowed gay men to communicate with each other without attracting attention, and allowed men to more easily scope out potential dates. In communities where the hanky code was prevalent, men knew that pursuing men who weren’t “flagging” could be risky, and they could seek out partners on the basis of preference by checking their back pockets. As more people came out the code became more obsolete. BUT, I for one am noticing the renewed interest in this mode of advertising. Let’s face it, the majority of us do not want to talk and get to know each other. When we want sex, we want sex and what better way to get down to it then broadcasting what it is you want and what you will do.
Hankies are usually worn in either the back left or right pockets, however, they can also be worn around the wrist, around the ankle or leg at the thigh above the knee, or around the neck with the knot/tie going either right or left to let people know if you are ‘top’ or ‘bottom’.
COLOR WORN ON LEFT WORN ON RIGHT
Black heavy SM top heavy SM bottom
Grey bondage top fit to be tied!
Black w/White Check safe sex top safe sex bottom
Grey W/Black light SM top light SM bottom
Grey Flannel owns a suit likes men in suits
Black w/White Stripe likes black bottoms likes black tops
Charcoal latex fetish top latex fetish bottom
Black Velvet has/takes videos will perform for the camera
Blue, Light wants head cocksucker
Blue, Robin’s Egg 69er anything but 69ing
Blue, Medium cop copsucker
Blue, Navy fucker (top) fuckee (bottom)
Blue, Airforce pilot/flight attendant likes flyboys
Blue, Light w/White Stripe sailor lookin’ for salty seamen
Blue, Teal cock & ball torturer cock & ball torturee
Red fist fucker fist fuckee
Red w/White Stripe shaver shavee
Red w/Black Stripe furry bear likes bears
Maroon cuts bleeds
Red, Dark 2-handed fister 2-handed fistee
Pink, Light dildo fucker dildo fuckee
Pink, Dark tit torturer tit torturee
Mauve into navel worship has a navel fetish
Fuschia spanker spankee
Magenta suck my pits armpit freak
Purple piercer piercee
Lavender likes drag queens drag queen
Yellow pisser/WaterSports piss freak
Yellow Pale spits drool crazy
Mustard hung 8″+ wants 8″+
Gold two looking for one one looking for two
Yellow w/White Stripe likes Asian bottoms likes Asian tops
Gold Lame likes muscleboy bottoms likes muscleboy tops
Orange anything anytime nothing now (just cruising)
Apricot two tons o’ fun chubby chaser
Coral suck my toes shrimper (sucks toes)
Rust a cowboy a cowboy’s horse
Green, Kelly hustler (for rent) john (looking to buy)
Green, Hunter daddy orphan boy looking for daddy
Olive Drab military top military bottom
Green, Lime dines off tricks (food) dinner plate (will buy dinner)
Beige rimmer rimmee
Brown scat top scat bottom
Brown Lace uncut likes uncut
Brown Satin cut likes cut
Brown w/White Stripe likes latino bottoms likes latino tops
White beat my meat (J/O) I’ll do us both (J/O)
Color – Meaning – Practice
Black – SM – Indicates the wearer’s interest in hardcore SM play, especially whipping.
Red – Anal fisting – Left pocket: Insertive partner. Right pocket: Receptive partner.
Yellow – Watersports – Urinating on (left), or being urinated upon by (right), another person.
Grey – Bondage – Play involving ropes, handcuffs, or other restraints that limit the bottom’s ability to move.
White – Mutual masturbation.
Light blue- Oral sex – Wearing it in the left back pocket or on the left side indicates willingness to receive fellatio. Wearing it in the right back pocket or on the right side indicates desire to perform fellatio.
Navy Blue – Anal sex – Wearing it in the left back pocket or on the left side indicates a preference to be the insertive partner (the “top” or “pitcher”) during anal intercourse. Wearing it in the right back pocket or on the right side indicates a preference to be in the receptive role (the “bottom” or “catcher”).
Pink (Light Pink) – Dildos.
Charcoal- Latex, PVC, or Rubber Fetish.
Medium Blue- Uniform fetish – Police uniforms or uniforms worn by other authority figures.
Teal- Cock and ball torture.
Khaki- Military Sex (Uniform fetish) – Likes wearing military uniforms.
Olive drab- Military person- Left: A military top; Right: a military bottom.
Kelly green – sex for money – Left: a male prostitute; right: a john (someone looking for a prostitute).
Hunter green- Daddy/boy sex- Looking for a boy (left) or looking for a daddy (right).
Brown – Scat
Burnt umber – Extreme sex – Extreme sex such as branding; or sex that is taboo even among most people in the leather subculture, e.g. , pederasty or bestiality.
Orange – Few limits – When worn on the left, orange indicates that the wearer will top in relatively any fetish, anytime, anywhere. Conversely, when orange is worn on the right, it indicates the wearer will bottom in relatively any fetish, anytime, anywhere.
Robin Egg Blue (Pale Robin Egg Blue) – 69
Aqua (Printer’s Cyan) – Aquaphilia – Having sex in water, such as in a bathtub, shower or swimming pool.
Lime- Sitophilia – Eating food off someone’s body or having food eaten off one’s body.
Chamois - Motorcycle sex – Indicates the wearer is looking for sex involving a motorcycle as a prop, or involving one or more bikers in the sexual activities.
Mauve – Navel fetish.
Dark Pink – Tit torture.
Magenta (Printer’s Magenta) – Armpits – Left: likes armpits licked; right: likes to lick armpits.
Fuchsia – Spanking.
Purple – Piercings – Actually piercing someone (left) or actually being pierced by someone (right) as an erotic stimulation; or one who has piercings (left) or one who desires someone with piercings (right).
Lavender (Bright Lavender)- Cross dressing / Gender play
Mustard (Gold Ochre)- Size queen
Gold (Golden) – Menage-a-trois – Two looking for one (left) or one looking for two (right).
Apricot – Chubby chaser.
Peach – Bear or cub who is interested in sex with another bear or cub.
Light yellow – Spitting – Left—wants to spit on partner during sex; right—wants to be spit upon during sex.
Beige (Desert Sand) – Rimming – Anal-oral contact.
Rust – Ponyism.
Camouflage – Rugged outdoorsman - Having sex outdoors in the country (such as when going camping).
Gingham – Urban outdoorsman – Having sex in city parks.
Argyle – Geeks – A geek or nerd (left) or interested in geeks or nerds (right).
Doily (an actual doily, not a bandana with a doily pattern)- Tearoom trade – Likes to have sex in public lavatories.
Gold (metallic gold) lame – Muscle sex – Looking for sex with bodybuilders.
Silver (metallic silver) lame – Starfucker – Looking for a rock star or male groupie.
Black leather bandana – Leather fetish.
Black velvet bandana – Videotaping -Likes to make videotapes of the act while having sex (left); likes to be videotaped (right)].
Gray flannel bandana- Suit and tie fetish – Left–Likes to have sex while wearing a suit and tie; right–likes to have sex with someone who is wearing a suit and tie.
Houndstooth – Biting – Likes to bite (Left) or likes to be bitten (right).
Black and white checkerboard pattern – Safe sex. e.g., frottage, or mutual masturbation or striptease in front of mirrors.
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